I was reading an article the other day by Wade Brown, Director of Church and Community Care for Focus on the Family, about how he and his daughter were connected or disconnected as it was often times due to technology. Becky often says she wishes I would lose my cell phone or states how she often feels like she is second fiddle to the cell phones of me and Shari.
I was sitting in the living room recently doing some research on my tablet. My daughter, Shari, was at the other end answering emails on hers while Becky was on Facebook. Other than the sound of fingers on the keyboards, there was complete silence as we kept pecking away. Forty-five minutes later, the silence broke: “Wow! Technology. Do you realize we’ve sat here for this long and haven’t said one word to each other?” I wish I could share with you that we closed our laptops and tablet at that point and enjoyed meaningful time together for the next hour. We didn’t. We simply acknowledged the reality of the moment and continued to engage with pixels instead. Not our best family moment! Hmmm…
You, no doubt, have a similar story. As parents, we really do want to make the most of our time with our children. We want that for our family relationships in general. Unfortunately, it’s not always easy. There are so many distractions in life that can easily derail us from the things that matter most—if we’re not careful.
One such distraction is the use of technology. Don’t misunderstand me. I love the quick touch points it allows me to have with Becky and Shari. There have been numerous times when something has me running late, and I’ve been grateful for that timely text message ability. Technology allows us to create, develop, video, research, photo, email, surf, blog, tweet, skype, Facebook, and the list goes on.
For all the amazing benefits, it does have some pitfalls. While it allows us to stay connected more than ever before, the question is who are we connected to? We’ll never be perfect in this area, and it’ll take wisdom and discernment to know when to respond to that text or email. The question at hand is this: do you really need to respond right now? I’m asking myself this more and more these days!
Stay connected, but seek to do so in meaningful ways — especially with those who mean the most to you!
Stay connected with family, and be sure you take time to stay connected in fellowship, relationship and prayer with your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
Enjoy the journey!